Deep throat

I was having an interesting chat this morning with a good friend of mine about dildos. Rather, this dialogue was about how her boyfriend is so dead set against her owning one. It’s so bad that he actually threw away some of her older ones when he found them without her consent! Apparently, his feelings are that if she’s resorting to dildos, then he’s not doing his job right. However, both her and I do not see the logic behind that mentality because well, it’s such a wussy attitude to have in our opinion. According to her though, his is a very common reaction to this particular subject every time it comes up with the other men she has dated. My question is why?

Are these guys so threatened at the presence of the silicone love god? Are they that self conscious about their own ability to please a woman (or man …or sheep for that matter) that the presence of a neon-colored phallic toy reduces them to jealous little bitches? Personally, I love using toys on the ladies while I’m getting my freak on, so I can’t understand why guys out there are terrified of these things. Ladies. have you run into this same situation? What are your thoughts on it? More importantly, how have you dealt with it?

23 replies on “Deep throat”

Well I have had a boyfriend like you who had really enjoyed using, my current man does feel a bit threatened by it though, so basically I just don’t bring it up.

My bf bought me my first dildo about a year ago. I only use it when he is out of town or if we are playing and I want some sort of dp action. Other men I have met seem to be both interested and disgusted by it. I think there are some men who think they have magic cocks and theirs is all you need. Think about how long a dildo can last versus the average man! I’d probably be intimidated too.

It amazes me how dumbfounded I can still be from what I hear. A man that is pissed bc his woman has dildos and vibrators?? Not to assume she is usin them without him, which all women do on occasion*winks*, she should fuckin tell him she doesnt get bothered by his hands, bc i am so sure he masterbates and well we know…u gotta use those hands.*smiles*

but on the serious… Thank God i have never been with a man like that. I dont think my sexual nature would allow me to meet a man like that. All I can say in response to this, I hope that this female who is havin this issue has beyond believable sex with this man. if not, shit let him go. bc apparently if she has to hide things, then he is not open enough for her and then the relationship is gonna begin to have problems. my 2 cents, anyhow.

ME, personally – i could never be with a man that has a brain that is that limited. I need a freak to be a freak with.

How strange,
Have never had a guy against the idea of toys – more theyre curious, and well eager to watch/join in with them.

Maybe if shes using the toys alone too much hes just feeling too left out or something?

My first husband got upset when I brought home a vibrator one night. It was my very first one so I was very excited.

He cried and told me to get rid of it.

I didn’t get rid of it – and I wasn’t going to let his little immature fit prusuade me to do so.

I left him a few months later. (Not because of the vibrator!)

Yeah, that’s what she is considering doing. Just finding a new hiding spot for it and not bringing it up anymore.

“I only use it when he is out of town or if we are playing and I want some sort of dp action.”

See, that’s what I would rather happen than my lady hooking up with other guys to fulfill those needs. True, they can definitely last way longer than most men, I have yet to hear a woman say they prefer one over the real thing. It’s like guys or women masturbating, sure it feels awesome when you do it, but compare it to sex? Doesn’t come close, well that is unless the other person is lousy in bed which would suck all around.

Actually, accoring to her the sex is just “ok” and definitely nothing earth shattering. But like most people with low-self esteem issues, she’s just happy she’s got a boyfriend which is a whole other huge mess to begin with.

“I need a freak to be a freak with.”

NAICE!!!! You’re my type of woman!

Nah, she’s just trying to find new an inventive ways to spruce up their sex life… Nothing worse than a straight missionary man from what I hear. *shakes head*

LOL

Oh man… Well, you were definitely in the right by not letting him guilt ya into getting rid of it. Now here’s the million dollar question… Is this toy still working?

As a woman who owns some toys, I know that the reason is not because I’m trying to come up with something to take the place of my husband. I think that masturbation is part of a healthy sex life. And, there are times when I’m feeling aroused and my husband isn’t around, so I just please myself. We’ve brought toys into the bed when we’re together, and he’s never had issues with it.

It’s not a comparison. When I use my toy, I use it for me and because I have needs. I don’t compare it to my bf or any other lover. Now my bf goes out of town alot recently so I use it a lot. But if I felt like using it even when we was here that would be my right.

LoL! I still have it… but I’m not sure if it still works. I’ve gotten better toys since then so I kinda neglet my first one, lol.

I know my sister has blown a few vibrator motors though, lol

That because some of those motors aren’t all that good. LMAO
i have gone through more than i care to admit.

I guess I’ve been lucky. My fiance doesnt mind all my toys and the boy loves them (even though he’ll deny it to the end) *G*

A dildo cant replace a man at all but it can make things fun when he’s either busy, not in the mood, out of town, or especially including them when we do play 😉

Reading this and all the comments was way too interesting for me…

I’ve had various reactions to my toys – the (ex) boy friend that got me into them always had fun with them and me. He liked to watch and he liked to be involved.

Everyone since then have been a little wierded out by them. My current guy has never used them with me and I’ve seemed to slip into a routine of only using it alone. Hmm… makes me think I may need to spice things up a bit.

ANyway, I enjoyed this interesting conversation…

Geez. If I were her, I’d turn it around on him and tell him he couldn’t masturbate. I’m all for sex when you have a regular partner, but sometimes, you just want to do it yourself – and there’s nothing wrong with that.

There’s nothing better than interesting conversations and I’m quite glad you’re enjoying it… 😀

It’s good to know there are still some guys like you!! My boyfriend is the same way, thank goodness. I love it when a guy isn’t afraid to use one of my toys on me. And I don’t know if I could be with someone who can’t respect the fact that I like to get off by my lonesome every so often. Just because a woman (or man, for that matter!) likes to pleasure herself does not necessarily mean that the guy isn’t pleasing her…

Honestly, Dustin is incredibly shy when it comes to adult stores.
He sucks at picking out porn.
He’s never helped me pick out any sort of toys.

I had owned one vibrator, which I mentioned before that my
ex broke. On himself.
I really don’t have a whole lot of experiance with any sort
of dildos or vibrators.

I should really change that.

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